Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Appreciate What You Receive


‘Tis the season for gift giving and returning! Many of us forget the true meaning of the holiday and turn it into a commercial holiday and all about presents. I know I love the commerciality of it all and get caught up in decorating the house, baking, Christmas music, and buying and receiving presents. But with receiving presents can often lead to re-gifting or returning, which I have learned is NEVER a good idea.

I’m not a habitual re-gifter and haven’t done so in forever, but it’s a no-no. But when you re-gift you have to worry about accidentally leaving something linked to the original giver, questions about where you got it, etc. And if you’re like me, I’m a horrible liar and am pretty sure people can tell when I’m not telling the truth.

And returning gifts isn’t nice either. When I was younger I returned LOTS of gifts (and to my family members who may be reading this, don’t fret, none of them were from you). I hadn’t returned gifts in a long time, but now that I’m on my own and in an apartment with not much storage, I just don’t have the room for stuff I don’t need or will never use. But either way, you feel bad about yourself if you return a gift and here’s why:

The person spent too little on you. I recall one Christmas where I returned a pair of pajamas I received as a Christmas present from a family member (again, this is not any of you that may be reading this). I was in my early teens and the pajamas were something I would have worn as a child. When I returned them, I got a whopping $2 back! I don’t remember if I had the gift receipt when I returned the pajamas, but I didn’t feel too good about myself. I am only worth $2 to that person? And even if they did spend more than $2 (if I didn’t have my gift receipt), they couldn’t have originally been that much more expensive that they were reduced to $2!

The person spent too much on you.
As crappy as I felt about the $2 pajamas, I felt even worse when I returned a present and the 1 item cost more than all of the gifts I bought for the person. It felt great having the cashier give me cash back, but I felt bad about how much this particular person spent on me! I just keep hoping Money Bags was re-gifting and didn’t spend that much or I feel super cheap!

My point is, we should all appreciate what we receive from our loved ones and what we have already been given in life. We need to step back and look at the bigger picture and be thankful for everything we have already been blessed with. P.S. Mom, if you’re reading this, this doesn’t mean you don’t have to buy me presents next year. :-)

Monday, December 7, 2009

Company Holiday Party Etiquette


It's that time of year again: the company holiday party! Whether or not you're looking forward to it, it's usually a good Monday morning conversation piece (or even a pre-party conversation piece: taking bets who is going to make a fool of themselves, hook up, etc.).

Last year my department was given a funny handout of "what not to do at a company holiday party." I was hoping I still had it, but unfortunately, I threw it out. However, I did some searching and found a similar list on a message board forum. If you haven't had your company holiday party yet, please keep these tips in mind unless your New Year's resolution is to find a new job. :-)

Hit the bottle. Especially if you are not used to drinking and three or four glasses could make you lose many of your inhibitions. Do you really feel like seeing digital photographs of yourself half-dressed doing a Madonna impersonation on the remnants of the drinks table?

Hit on somebody. If you've been eyeing the new marketing manager for six months, but just couldn't get it together to ask her out, this is not the opportunity. She's not going to take you seriously, and will merely think only Dutch courage made you do it.

Spill the beans about your personal life. Details of your personal life should not be discussed with colleagues. A few drinks may let you tell the wrong person you're having an affair or you don't get on with your stepchildren or your mother has a drinking problem. Tomorrow it will probably be doing the rounds in the mailroom or among the cleaning staff.

Talk about work. This is a social occasion with your colleagues, not a planning meeting. Don't be a bore. For one day, people want to forget about budgets, sagging sales and looming retrenchments.

Buffet bonanza. Just because you're not paying doesn't mean you have to pig out until you're as round as a barrel. Have a good time, but don't behave as if you've been stranded on a deserted island for a week. The last thing you want to do is to throw up on the managing director's shoes as you leave the party. This is not a smart career move. More or less in the same vein is stuffing your handbag full of food – this merely makes you look greedy and uncouth.

Ask for a raise. Just because the boss is smiling for the first time in six months doesn't mean this is a good time to talk to him about your increased salary expectations. This simply is not the time and it's also not the place.

Taking a souvenir. This is a killer. Just because the company has booked out the restaurant for the afternoon, doesn't give you the right to remove anything. Cutlery, table decorations, napkins – they still belong to the restaurant. Taking them amounts to theft. And how do you explain the spoon cascading from your sleeve as you leave the restaurant?

Have it out with someone. Your archrival is sitting diagonally opposite you at the table and having this person in such close proximity just lets the dam wall burst. Cataloguing your long list of grievances between the starter and the main course will spoil the dinner for everyone, and even if your rival's antics would put Attilla the Hun to shame, you're the one to end up looking foolish.

Karaoke crisis. If you can't sing outside the shower, stick to it. If you are a budding Pavarotti, you would have been discovered before this party. A drunken singalong, or even worse, a drunken solo, will do little for your general esteem in the office.

Reciprocate advances from married colleagues. Just don't go down this road. It always ends in heartbreak and drama and will make colleagues lose respect for you. It also complicates the working situation if the person who has to decide on your promotion knows what you look like with no clothes on.

Let it all hang out. If you're usually dressed in semi-formal work gear, by all means go casual for the Christmas party. But don't look as if you're about to audition for a position as a lap dancer at the local strip joint.

Display your exotic dancing skills. Even if you know what you're doing, this kind of dancing best happens behind closed doors between consenting adults. It will be difficult for you to reprimand someone later for being hung over at work, if they can remember stuffing R10-notes into your underwear.

Be antisocial. Even if parties like these are not your favourite pastime, make an effort to be jolly and sociable. Chat to many people and try and have a good time. Don't corner one individual and bore them with endless details of your flyfishing tip.

Drinking and driving. Unless you fancy spending a night or two in the local slammer, sharing a cell with people you wouldn't open the front door to, just don't get in behind the steering wheel if you've had one too many. Call a taxi or get a lift with someone else. Remember there is nothing that sobers you up so quickly as realising that you've run someone over. – Susan Erasmus, Health24

Courtesy of My Broadband Forums.

And for your laughing pleasure, another list that is just humorous: How to Avoid Getting Fired at Your Office Christmas Party.